My aunt died back in about 2003. She was eighty-four and so was my uncle. When she passed he was devastated. They had been married for over 60 years. We expected him to pass on quickly after she died. He attended his church more frequently and his mourning was nearly unbearable to witness. His only daughter lived clear across the country so he had only the rest of the extended family and church family to comfort him.
My cousin talked him into selling the house that he and my aunt had built together abouttwenty-five years before. It was very hard to part with the home they built together. He wasgoing to move into an apartment, but at the last moment, my cousin and he saw a new housefor sale, that was close to his business. She helped him buy furniture and a flat screentelevision. He had not watched television for years because of his religion. He was like a kid witha new toy but still grieved horribly for my aunt.
One day he called my cousin who was living in Texas and told her that he reconnected with alady from a church that he and my aunt went to forty years previously. She played piano andhis church was looking for new music. Her husband had died about seven years previously. Hesaid he just wanted someone to go out to dinner with and spend time with. We were happy forthem but had no idea how it would turn out. They were both almost eighty-seven years old.
They were like lovebirds and spent as much time together as they could. They both had onechild each, she a son, he a daughter. She had a house that her father built for her when shegot married to her first husband. She was content there.
The other fly in the ointment was that they were both very busy people. They both still worked!They were in their mid-eighties and both had their own family businesses. She worked for herson who took over the family business and he had his own business.
The clash in their relationship came when they neither wanted to leave their respectivechurches. She went to her Baptist church that she had attended for many years and he went tohis, which was a Pentecostal. They decided to remain friends but nothing more. He was broken-hearted, but felt that his religion was the only way. She didn’t want to leave her church anddidn’t like the extreme of his.
Before too long they realized that they did not want to be apart. They would find a new churchtogether. They planned to marry. When he took her to a jewelry store and bought her adiamond, the employees were so impressed that they had a big write up in our own localpaper, ""The Truth" for Valentines" Day." They prepared for their wedding. They moved thewedding date up because neither wanted to wait any longer to "be together," and it was notproper to "be together" without being married.
They got married in her house, where they decided they would live. It was such a beautifulrefreshing thing to see, two people who you would have thought had pretty much lived theirlives, were beginning a new one together. I have never seen my uncle happier. He is still in loveand she loves him as much as he loves her.